Wednesday, April 9, 2025

Why You Need a Tribe, Part Two: Build the Fire

 


This isn’t a pitch. This isn’t about joining my fire. This is about remembering what you were built for. If this rhythm doesn’t move something in you, don’t force yourself to dance to it.

Go find the fire that makes you burn. Not flicker politely. Not warm your hands and leave unchanged. Burn.

But while you search… beware the false fires.They’re everywhere. You’ll know them by how they feel.

Echo Chambers

Everyone agrees. No one grows. Everything is validated, nothing is challenged. It feels good… until it doesn’t. You’re not seen. You’re absorbed. No grit. No tension. No fire.

Codependency Clubs


Everyone plays therapist. Everyone’s "working on each other." No one tells the truth.

Love without sovereignty. Healing without accountability. A place where you’re needed, but never actually known.

Soul Drift Circles

It’s fine. Everyone’s nice. But you leave… empty. Polite conversations. Shared hobbies.
 But your soul? Quiet. You were tuned to a different frequency.

The wrong tribe will numb you. The right tribe will set you ablaze.

Here’s the test:

  •     Do you feel more you after spending time with them?
  •     Do you leave lit up or leveled out?
  •     Do they challenge your truth, or politely ignore it?

You don’t need more followers. You don’t need another mastermind or message thread. You need a circle that can see your fire, and hold it.

And if this Tribe of the Fire isn’t that for you? Go find the one that is. But whatever you do…

Don’t stay cold because you think your warmth is a problem. If You Can’t Find It, Build It

You’ve searched.  You’ve whispered your truth in rooms that smiled and nodded but never really heard you. You’ve tried to blend in. Tried to settle. Tried to dial it down just enough to belong.

But maybe… you’re not here to be chosen. Maybe you’re here to be the match that starts your own fire. Not the influencer. Not the guru. Not the one with the logo and the launch team.

Just the one who builds what you needed most. You were never too intense. You were just meant to be a firestarter.

I know the fear. I’ve launched things that collapsed. I’ve watched silence meet my invitations. I’ve carried more vision than manpower, and still kept walking.

Because it’s not about popularity. It’s about resonance.

The fire isn’t always a place. Sometimes it’s a person. Sometimes it’s a promise. But it’s never found by waiting. When you strike your match with clarity and truth,  the ones who’ve been cold for too long will find you. You don’t have to go viral. You have to go real.

Five Ways to Begin Building Your Own Tribe

This isn’t about building a movement like mine. It’s about starting your fire, your way. Some of us were born to build the thing we needed to find. Here’s how:

1. Write the Code

What does your soul refuse to compromise on? Honor? Humor? Depth? Devotion? Play? Stillness?

List 3–5 values.These are your laws of the tribe. They don’t have to be flashy. They just have to be true.

2. Gather

Text a few people. Not the ones who say “let’s catch up” and never do. The ones who feel like possibility.Ask them something real:

“What are you afraid of outgrowing?”

“What do you wish people asked you more often?”

That’s it. That’s the spark.

3. Design the Feeling

Don’t worry about structure yet. Worry about resonance.How should it feel to be part of this circle?

  •     Sacred?
  •     Wild?
  •     Grounded?
  •     Safe but not soft?

Let the emotion be your blueprint. Build for how it should feel.

4. Create the Rituals

Ritual = rhythm.
Rhythm = safety.
Safety = expression.

Start simple:

  •     A weekly voice memo
  •     A monthly walk
  •     A dinner with one rule: no small talk

Ritual isn’t about religion. It’s about remembrance.

5. Stay True When It’s Small

Most tribes begin as whispers. A Sunday coffee. A silent witness to your breakdown. A shared laugh that feels like home. Don’t wait for polished. Wait for honest.

Tribes don’t recruit. They remember.

Mine became a book. A system. A living thing with rites and codes and trials. But it started with one question:

“What if I stopped waiting for the right circle, and started building the one I could die proud of?”


If you’re still reading this, I know something about you. You were never meant to be lukewarm.

Whether your tribe is two people and a firepit or two hundred and a fortress, build it with your whole being. The world needs it more than you think.

The Best Time Is Right Now

You don’t need permission. You don’t need the right group. You don’t need another course or guru.

You need to start.

Because someone out there is cold. They don’t even know what they’re looking for. But when they see your flame? They’ll remember.

Don’t wait for the right people. Become the right signal.

You don’t need a million followers. You need twelve people who would bleed with you under moonlight.

If this Fire feels familiar, step closer. If it doesn’t, go build the one that does. But don’t wait in the cold. Light something.

You don’t have to be a leader. Just be a match.

 

~Jason

 

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